There has been so much death over these past few months. It is so painful and sad when we lose a loved one that words fail to describe the depth of that loss.
When my sister’s son Jason died at the age of 22, I went to help her plan the funeral, function day to day, and be the protective shield between her, her family and the outside world until such time as she/they could deal with the thousands of people whose hearts bled for her and her family. Those well intentioned souls who wanted to extend their condolences, comfort and grieve with her…was just too much.
So this morning, I asked the question: What does death give us? The answer came: It brings the importance of living each moment, savoring and enjoying the time we have together crashing in. It reminds us of all that is of value and to be cherished, and in doing so lifts us above the worldly concerns that are really quite small. It challenges us spiritually calling us to connect on a deeper, universal level.
For me, it was in that deep crushing grief, that the gift of love and presence – beyond all imagination – was received. In the simple active of “being” – not trying to fix, comfort or distract, but simply being with the pain and allowing it, that we experienced connection and profound love. As we allowed the pain of loss to “be”, we remembered all the good, the love and joy of that person’s life and presence; all the gifts they gave us. The death of a loved one leaves a hole in our souls; and “being” helps health the soul with love.
May all who grieve “be”, and may healing and love begin to fill your soul.